Patience is a Virtue...Or is it?
Yes, I've come back for a second post in the same day. I have a lot on my mind...
This time around, I want to talk about being patient. No, not being patient while waiting in line at the store or waiting for something to arrive in the mail, but patient in terms of getting what you want out of a relationship. It really comes down to this: What's in a title? Is it really important? What makes some of us so stuck on having a title, when we can get what we want without a title?
This isn't only an issue among those that have been dating/messing around for a short period of time; I've also seen it with couples who have been dating for years. My "aunt" and uncle have been together for well over 20 years and have had five kids, but they still aren't married. Is that just the way society is these days, or is there something more there? Maybe its a fear of commitment. Maybe it's just the fact that there's no point of the "title" because everything to be gained from a real relationship has already been acheived.
Unfortunately, like many of my previous topics, this is more of an issue to women as it is to men. We're the ones looking for that love, that special someone to call "our own", the title, the right to say that he is all ours. Men on the other hand, are completely content without the title most of the time. In fact, to them, that's all it is: A TITLE (by the way, what makes the difference between a "title" and a true relationship?). Because of these differences, women are willing to give, give, give, and men are willing to take, take, take. While we're giving all that we can in hopes that they will see that we care about them and will make a good girlfriend, they're busy enjoying it all, soaking it all in, and taking everything they can, while they can. In the end, the giver usually ends up without, because she's depleted all of her goods and he has them all--and there is still no relationship. It makes sense--why buy the milk if you can have the cow (I think I said that right)? In other words, why bother getting into a relationship if you're already getting everything you want, without the hassle of a relationship and the commitment that comes with it?
It gets frustrating for us women because after a certain point, it becomes hard to stop. You've already caught feelings and have given him your all, and you refuse to stop at that. He's GOING to learn to want to be with us, right? While I'm sure that answer is wrong, my question to all of the guys are, what's the point of sticking around if you don't want to be with us? Why continue to play games and lead us on, when you know that we're both looking for the opposite result in the future? And for those of you that claim you really DO want a relationship in the near future, why all the excuses as to why we can't have it now? What's really the difference between what we do now, and what we'll be doing in the future? There are FAR too many of us women willing to wait around for men weren't even thinking about giving us what we ultimately wanted in the first place.
They say patience is a virtue, but is it really a virtue when it comes to matters of the heart? Do the best things really come to those that wait--wait on another to provide us with what they only think of as a "title"?
This time around, I want to talk about being patient. No, not being patient while waiting in line at the store or waiting for something to arrive in the mail, but patient in terms of getting what you want out of a relationship. It really comes down to this: What's in a title? Is it really important? What makes some of us so stuck on having a title, when we can get what we want without a title?
This isn't only an issue among those that have been dating/messing around for a short period of time; I've also seen it with couples who have been dating for years. My "aunt" and uncle have been together for well over 20 years and have had five kids, but they still aren't married. Is that just the way society is these days, or is there something more there? Maybe its a fear of commitment. Maybe it's just the fact that there's no point of the "title" because everything to be gained from a real relationship has already been acheived.
Unfortunately, like many of my previous topics, this is more of an issue to women as it is to men. We're the ones looking for that love, that special someone to call "our own", the title, the right to say that he is all ours. Men on the other hand, are completely content without the title most of the time. In fact, to them, that's all it is: A TITLE (by the way, what makes the difference between a "title" and a true relationship?). Because of these differences, women are willing to give, give, give, and men are willing to take, take, take. While we're giving all that we can in hopes that they will see that we care about them and will make a good girlfriend, they're busy enjoying it all, soaking it all in, and taking everything they can, while they can. In the end, the giver usually ends up without, because she's depleted all of her goods and he has them all--and there is still no relationship. It makes sense--why buy the milk if you can have the cow (I think I said that right)? In other words, why bother getting into a relationship if you're already getting everything you want, without the hassle of a relationship and the commitment that comes with it?
It gets frustrating for us women because after a certain point, it becomes hard to stop. You've already caught feelings and have given him your all, and you refuse to stop at that. He's GOING to learn to want to be with us, right? While I'm sure that answer is wrong, my question to all of the guys are, what's the point of sticking around if you don't want to be with us? Why continue to play games and lead us on, when you know that we're both looking for the opposite result in the future? And for those of you that claim you really DO want a relationship in the near future, why all the excuses as to why we can't have it now? What's really the difference between what we do now, and what we'll be doing in the future? There are FAR too many of us women willing to wait around for men weren't even thinking about giving us what we ultimately wanted in the first place.
They say patience is a virtue, but is it really a virtue when it comes to matters of the heart? Do the best things really come to those that wait--wait on another to provide us with what they only think of as a "title"?
posted by Kimmie91783 @ 12:44 PM
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